Yesterday
there was a scheduled visit by CPS to our home. These visits involve the CPS
case worker and someone from the Blake Foundation (usually), but there was one
time the Blake Foundation was a no call no show (did not even call the case
worker to let them know what had happened). There is a new Blake representative
and our CPS case worker present at this meeting. Blake (Easter Seals) is a foundation
offers services to children and adults: therapy, education and community
living. The way we usually accomplish this meeting is for my wife to go into
the kid’s room with both individuals while I watch the children in the front room. It enables everyone to speak of things the kids do not need to hear. After
the discussion was finished CPS wanted to address the information that my young
son had spoken to me concerning his bio mother in the morning.
As this is happening my wife returns to
the front room to tell me some very wonderful and at the same time terrible news.
The CPS worker has informed my wife that the parents of the three children we
have in our care have been breaking the rules of their plans for the kids to
return to them.
Back History on the bio father and
mother:
Most of this we know from past court
records as we have been given the entire file on each of them to help us know
how to help the children. The woman the bio father recently married was disfigured
by him and he served jail time for the act. Yes she married him anyway (weak
people) and they have five of their own children between them. This man fathered
the youngest girl that we have in our home with the bio mother we are dealing
with currently during his engagement to be married to his new bride and she
knows it. He is an “Ex” drug dealer with many other run-ins involving law enforcement.
Currently he was tested and came up
positive for alcohol in his system and he is not supposed to be drinking it at
all. It has been reported that he is arriving drunk at the bio mother's house
and wanting to have sex with her as he had many times in the past before the
kids were taken (castration anyone?).
My own feelings on the subject:
It should not be a birthright to populate
the planet with children that you couldn't care less about. At least cut them off at
three when they show no sign of recovery and if in the small chance they do
turn their life around the permanency of castration should be their life
penance for the way they lived their life in the past. I know many will disagree with this
and it is a problem that is not easily solved. I merely offer one solution that
if implemented in the past would have made a difference in today’s world. It is
not a fix-all as there is nothing that could fix this other than every person
caring about each other and each other’s children and their families. Our own
government demonstrates to us how much they care about this by the lack of
funding provided for the care of our own children.
Back to prior history on the bio
parents:
The bio mother was in a court hearing two
months back and the case worker brought up the fact that she tested dirty for
cocaine yet nothing ever happened in the way of discipline. She has been hard
to work with and does not follow the rules we have heard spoken to
her during an emergency CFT (Child and Family Team meeting) where we had to
meet up with many people involved on the CPS side and both bio parents.
Currently she has been kicked out of
another rental property (she has anger issues that have provoked many meetings
with law enforcement not to mention when the children were taken she punched
the case worker in the face holding her now 2 year old girl). She
told her son she is living all alone and is lonely. “Thanks for laying that on the poor
kid!” “He does not need her making him feel bad so he comes home crying and
having nightmares after visits.” Even with the neglect and horrible situations
he has been in because of her, he still loves his mother.
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